Our 2019 resolutions were categorized by F words: finances, fitness, food and… f(h)ouse.
Obviously, F words couldn’t cover the complete list. I haven’t read the dictionary. I’m not searching for a synonym for “house” that begins with an F. Psh.
In 2020, though, every resolution will contain an F word.
The best F word.
Get an F Word Hobby
Prior to parenting, I had hobbies. Creative, fulfilling hobbies. Cooking, decorating, drawing, salvaging, writing, yoga.
Hell, I even read books that didn’t rhyme.
After my son was born, I abandoned all of my hobbies. Cooking became a chore. All the art, breakable decor and photos came down. I packed away my charcoal, paints and pencils. I was proscribed from yoga entirely by my physical therapist — still the case to this day.
And the house transformed into my son’s play space. An extra-safe, dull, totally decoration-free arena where he could crawl, explore and scatter toys.
Well, I’m taking it back.
My art, decor and photos are going back up. I’m unpacking my pencils. I’m pulling my desk out of storage.
His toys are going in his room. (Wish me luck.)
And I’m getting an F word hobby in 2020.
Take Some F Word Time
Am I taking from my son by making our house less his space? Yes, but I’m planning to give him something in return.
Our day-to-day schedule is wake, work/school, eat and sleep. We shove all of our family time together in the two and half hours between getting home from work and toddler bedtime.
It’s the smallest window of our day, and it isn’t always pretty.
In 2020, we’re making that window bigger and giving him more quality in our F word time.
First, I’m going to make work-life balance a priority in 2020.
Because I abandoned all of my hobbies after I became a mother, I turned to the activity I was best at for creative fulfillment.
I love my work, but I spend too much time outside of it focusing on it. So, to Take Some F Word Time, I’m changing my focus. (Hence why my first resolution is to Get an F Word Hobby.)
See, I’m trying.
Second, we’re going to do more as a family in 2020. Activities that benefit us all by getting me walking (for my pain) and tiring out the toddler (for our sanity).
- Exploring at Botanica Gardens or the Sedgwick County Zoo
- Going to the farmer’s market
- Playing at one of the parks we love on the weekends
- Taking walks after dinner
- Visiting grandparents and great-grandparents on the weekends
Even before we had a child, my husband and I loved these activities — and the tiny toddler terror loves them now.
I get my house back. He gets to jump in puddles. Win-win.
Remodel the F Word House
In 2019, we turned the lights back on. In 2020, we’re putting lipstick on our pig, er, house — countertops, flooring, paint. You name it. I’m changing it.
Not only does the house need some TLC, it will also be my part of my F Word Hobby.
I love a fresh coat of paint as well as the
tedious focused work of stripping layers of it off something that used to be beautiful.
Plus, remodeling the house will absolutely be part of my “might lose weight” resolution. Because omg it’s exhausting, and I’m already sore.
All of my “active minutes” during Thanksgiving break were me painting the dining room while the toddler napped or slept.
Our goal is to do as much as we can DIY, but we might have to call in the professionals to rip out the carpet, pad and staples tarnishing the PERFECTLY GOOD hardwood floors under them.
What were the 50’s(?) thinking, for F word sake. (Seriously, this wood is OLD, and the carpet pad under the “new” carpet doesn’t look super new…)
Take Care of My F Word Self
I faced a host of health hullabaloo in 2019: eczema, GAD, hair loss, hormonal imbalance, PMDD, thyroid cysts and, as always, chronic back pain.
My body is a mess, but most of its problems stem from poor serotonin receptors. (Turns out, it was “all in my head,” or wherever serotonin is made. Also too lazy to look up science.)
Thankfully, I took time in 2019 to find a diagnosis, get treatment and pull myself back out of the hole postpartum left me in. I’m going into 2020 armed with a will to fight and a priority to Take Care of My F Word Self.
Including all our favorite F words, of course… finances, fitness and food.
Happy New Year, y’all.